Loving others when we disagree

In Middle Phase Life Lessons, we have been working with students to think about how we can respect others when we disagree with them, as this is an important skill for any young person or adult. We have discussed practical strategies including taking deep breaths, listening patiently, and demonstrating that you understand others. We also talked about personal strategies to keep in our minds when we are talking with someone, including trying to put ourselves in their shoes and to remember that we do not know the full story of what is happening in the life of the other person we are in conflict with.

More importantly than those skills however, we want to impress on our young people that the attitude of our hearts is incredibly important when we are in conversation with people we disagree with. There is no better example to follow than that of God himself in perhaps the most famous verse of the Bible:

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16

Romans says that while we were God’s enemies, Christ died for us. John reminds us here that God loves the world so much that He thought it was worth sending his own Son to die for us, to take our place, even though we were his enemies.

When it comes to disagreeing with others, this is the attitude that serves us well in loving others and respecting others that we may disagree with. These are the life lessons that we pray will stick with our young people as they continue to grow in maturity.

Dan McComber
Head of Middle Phase